Life In The Headlights: What Kind Of Grandmother Is So Evil?


I have picked up pen and paper several times in the past month. And every time I have found myself at a loss for words.

Never will I ever be able to understand how someone can have such evil in their very souls. I would say heart, but let's face it - I doubt heart has a thing to do with it. Two women who were simply doing what moms do - what they needed to for children - are now gone forever.

When I first heard that the duo was missing my heart immediately sank. I could think of no reason why these two would disappear. And, they were an unlikely pair to disappear together.

Rumors immediately began to fly. "Crime chasers" came out of the woodwork. And through it all - there was a hurt so very excruciating for those who knew them.

It didn't take long for a "picture" of the "why" began to develop. There was a custody battle - a battle that reminded me of a story in the Bible about two women who were fighting over a child. King Solomon ordered a soldier to bring a sword and then threatened to do the unthinkable.

"They brought the sword to the king. Then he said, 'Cut the living baby in two - give half to one and half to the other.' The real mother of the living baby was overcome with emotion for her son and said, 'Oh no, master! Give her the whole baby alive; don't kill him!' But the other one said, 'If I can't have him, you can't have him - cut away!' The king gave his decision: 'Give the living baby to the first woman. Nobody is going to kill this baby. She is the real mother.'"

As it was in this case. The grand"mother" who had some sort of custody over two children made the decision if she couldn't have the children - nobody else could either. The real mother in this case was doing everything right - working to regain custody of the two beautiful children she loved.

I still get stuck on that word - grandmother. What kind of grandmother is so evil and cruel to take a mother away from her own grandchildren? And for that matter what kind of people follow such a woman so blindly?

This one person who was so filled with selfishness has caused so much harm to so many. First of all - the children. Then there are the children of a woman whose only "crime" was to be in the wrong place at the wrong time. There is the fiance of one and a husband of the other. There are siblings, parents, cousins, grandparents, friends.... So much pain.

And it doesn't stop there.

There has also been a fallout to those on the other side. Family members and friends are left in shock - wondering if they ever really knew these five people at all? They are being ostracized by those they know and even by some they have never met.

You would think the pain would stop there - but it doesn't.

There is the emergency responders. Law enforcement, medical personnel, a variety of departments who all came together to try and find the missing women. Some may have known them. Some may have known the ones responsible. Again, there is pain, shock, disbelief. As if that isn't enough, law enforcement has been ridiculed and insulted by those who questioned whether or not they were doing their jobs.

It seemed like forever, but in just two weeks, they had four of those responsible in custody and the fifth soon followed. Again, through it all there are those who speculate, guess, spread rumors and sometimes downright lie with no regard to the pain their contributions make.

Why did more people not come forward when they knew this "grandmother" was so filled with hatred? "Why" would someone be so evil in the first place? "Why" do so many think they are "experts" after the fact? 

When will we take responsibility for what we don't say when we know the answers? Don't let another soul be lost because you were afraid to be involved - afraid to stand up and tell the truth. And, make sure when you do tell it is to the authorities - not on social media. Be involved in the right way. Don't add to the fallout. And the fallout from this is great.


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